There’s an interesting theory that you can achieve everything and the very thing preventing you from that is you. More specifically your beliefs about how the world works.
Recently, I was blessed by an opportunity to run through this with two friends of mine, thus achieving much more structured knowledge and neat illustrations from the cafe interior.
– My client wants to win a lottery and I’d like to give him that.
– So what’s the problem?
– It would be easier for me if he tried to buy a ticket
(c) fellow angels
Let’s start from the three axioms:
- You have a goal and you think you can’t reach it
- Every goal is reachable(esoterically: god gave you everything to reach everything you need)
- When you can’t reach something, you’re just blinded by some beliefs
Six steps below will help you to move forward with your goal.
Step 1: you have a goal.
And you have yourself:
You say you can’t reach it, but in a model where there is a goal and yourself nothing else prevents you from taking the thing:
Step 2: So let’s blame something specific, your beliefs. Rethink your “I can’t” statement into something like “I can’t reach it because …”. We’ve used sugar sticks for that:
I name it beliefs, though at first they seem pretty much like reality facts. To prove the latter statement wrong, we’ll do the following.
Step 3: imagine any situation(even with low probability) in which “because” part will be wrong statement.
So you have a glimpse of idea that something may well be done about all that! Why would you want to believe in a thing which prevents you from something you want?
Step 4: answer(in writing) what’s your benefit for maintaining such a belief?
Step 5: answer, what’s your price for maintaining the belief?
Step 6: are there any suitable belief replacements maximizing your win and minimizing your loss?
Surely, speculating about all that stuff is far from achieving your goal. In a world full of naysayers, though, I value instruments giving me reason for moving this world into a better future, not for inaction.
My personal experience, as usual.
- Goal: I’d like to stop giving my mom wild amounts of cash, so that she’ll have some incentive to take responsibility for her own life. Effective immediately.
- Belief: I can’t do that because she’s helpless
- Prove it wrong: She was responsible for her own life when she was young and did solve all the unknowns incredibly well
- What’s the win: I’m omiting my fear of being bad by not supporting her
- What’s the price: I’m blocking my mom from evolving by isolating her from feedback of her choices. I’m losing time and resources I could have used for the world. We’re all maintaining positions, not evolving
- Alternative belief: My mom is awesome. She can tackle that.
At the time of writing, I’m moving off my parents flat and my mom has a job.