I’m watching ‘Now you see me’ and eating my dinner alone. I’m a bit uncomfortable about the thing, so you all will know it. What we do is just our choice. Hiding problems from others just lowers our chances to fix those. The problem here is feeling uncomfortable as you might have guessed :)
Imagine your boss not giving you enough payraise, or a position, or even not a boss telling you words in a form you don’t like. You walk away and you never, never going to have any business with that person. Silently and with no actions.
If there is a case where such a scenario is possible(mb, with other decorations), I’m afraid you gave up that time. You chose to transfer responsibility to an offender and now you’re good – you need to do nothing. There will be another offenders over and over – mind is easily taught new fancy patterns of simplifying the reality. Mb during the first tries of the strategy, we’ve learned it may be effective – parents don’t let their children to walk away pissed off. With time it’s does not(actually it never did – training your environment to act like a guilty robots does not seem a long term win for me).
So I’ve observed that in myself as well as around me numerous times and would like to remind us of another option: stand up for the interest. Learn more of the offenders position and feelings, try to find points you can score both. With practice your mind will be more efficient in finding those even if you’ll be far away from brilliance first. Eventually, state your position clearly and as an equal. Even if you’ll “lose” this time, you’re one step closer to developing a better self(as well as a one more open relationship for the future).