Facebook: How to @mention people by their first names

Mentioning people by names is closer to the natural language the way I use it, also I don’t like feeling useless barriers in my communication. Once upon a times Facebook showed me a dialog asking if I’d like to use only first names when @mentioning people, I picked “Surely, I do” option and it never happened. Though, I knew the function exists somewhere. A few days ago I’ve discovered how to do that.

1. As usual everything starts with typing ‘@’ and a few characters from the name

2. After clicking on the right person, I’ve got a full name highlighted by Facebook

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3. Then I put the cursor after the name and press Backspace (Delete on Mac)

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4. Profit!

Don’t confuse me with an optimist

Recently I was judged to be an optimist, which is not quite the case. Let’s find out what the difference is and try to get a feel of that.

Optimism is a mental attitude or world view that interprets situations and events as being best (optimized), meaning that in some way for factors that may not be fully comprehended, the present moment is in an optimum state. The concept is typically extended to include the attitude of hope for future conditions unfolding as optimal as well.

Case 1.
Person: we’ve screwed the search puzzle by picking the wrong route
Me: I feel like I understand the logic better now

Case 2.
Person: I hate playing without a navigator person
Me: I’ll fill in the gap next time

I don’t hope for the better future here, neither do I speculate about the universe(factors that may not be fully comprehended). I only have me, myself and I playing with my words and thoughts, putting them in a way which makes the experience actionable and empowering.

Exercise

If you’d like to get a feel of that try this:knuckles

1. Get yourself a timer
2. Pick a challenging pose
3. Measure your time and notice all the thoughts in your head, in my case I always end up with something like “Oh, I’m tired”, “It hurts”, “It’s raining”, “I’ll do my best next time” — this will be specific to you, but I’m including a good set of excuses as a youtube video[1]
4. take some rest
5. try once again but closer to the end nurse a different set of thoughts, I’m particularly excited by “This current moment represents my whole life, following the wuss route now, I’m accepting that for all”, also having a beautiful girl nearby helps :)

I bet you’ll be better at p5 than at p3.

Takeaways

Now that you noticed how your thoughts can kneecap you or support your goals achievement. Whichever you choose?

[1] Nike ‘No excuses’ commericial

Sleeping pod types

One of the things I continuously miss is a place to have a nap. Polyspastic sleep cycle is a fun thing, but missing a single nap in time can quickly break me apart. With this post I’m starting my journey towards increasing the number of spots anyone can have a nap at :)

Although, a yoga carpet can be a good start, my construction itch requires a fancier target. A few picies below suggest what can it look like:

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  • Legs being above the head level is something I liked in past(like in pics 3 and 6)
  • Protection from the light and sound is also something cool(1)
  • It’s super cool to support the awakening with the automatic posture change(6)
  • Cardboard  can be used as a cheap prototyping material(7)

I’ll start the construction early next week in our HackLab - stay tuned!

Knowledge sharing is the key

Of the ideas I’ve grasped from the economics of personality cycle was the one that after reaching some point of decency in your life it makes sense to make sure that people around you live good too as at some point all of your descendants will share a lot.

In a shorter term making ten people around me earn an additional grand per year each makes me richer too. I don’t mean all of the additional resources will be at my full control, it’s just me being ‘happier’ because people around are. I think there’s some financial way to express this by means of investing into shared infrastructure or something.

And it bugs me a lot. The only way of earning resources I know of is to earn more of them to someone else and get a share of that. Which requires a decent amount of knowledge itself, which requires a time investment.

I also strongly believe that by changing the information available to people, we can fix the issues I’d like to:

  • Unscientific shares(e.g. a recent one whereby rice in Crimea was all gone due to problems with water, so the post suggested that rice is not Slavic enough)
  • Hatred speeches(e.g. Americans are stupid, while Slavic culture is superior)
  • Harmful ways to earn money(e.g. guys selling drugs in my neighborhood)
  • Harmful ways to recreate(e.g. alcohol, drugs)

In my world the answer to all this is to share: to teach people, tell them stories, show them pictures, so that their broadened view will contain a few decent lifestyle choices to pick from.

And for that I need to do something useful on my own too :) That’s my fairytale to get a particular thing done, yay sleeping pods!

Fairytales in getting things done

While doing my weekly retrospective, I was a bit disturbed by the fact that I’ve adjusted my goals slightly to make them reachable. While discussing that all out load and with a person, I’ve came up with another approach which I’d like to share.

In my universe reaching a goal always boils down to allocating a necessary(usually unknown) amount of resources. The amount required becomes clear during the execution stage and when it appears that I lack those, I try to fix that via one of the methods I’m used to:

1. Give up on it totally and use the resources for the world — e.g. don’t buy no cars(and horses)
2. Try to find some immediate use to the others and pool our resources together — e.g. rent a car to travel
3. Reduce the amount of resources required — e.g. buy a toy car

All of those don’t work in terms of not bringing me the result I wanted initially. P1 is loser way by definition. P2 does not work as I’m not good at thinking in urgent mode, so I usually I abandon this option in favor of other ones in a matter of minutes. P3 as my house building exercise shows, makes the goal not tasty enough and I resort to P1, which has proven ‘efficiency’ :)

4. Relax, use your imagination and build a LARGER vision — e.g. I was about to give up on building a sleeping pod, but by accident I came up with the following: a) it’s built somehow b) it’s installed in one of the IT companies offices c) competitors catch up –> voila, it’s commonly accepted thing now! I’m excited with the leverage: I do a small thing vs the world changes and that motivates me a lot.

TL;DR: So, if you’re reluctant to do something, try to come up with a fairytale – that helps : )

Willpower no more! – an alternative approach to achieving stuff

I did a great job with planning and after a few sparks of execution decided to ‘adjust my priorities’(f*ck up the execution) again. Usually I suffered because of this but recently I’ve formalized an efficient way(when applied to myself) to live with that – see if you can borrow from me and make yourself happier too :)

One of the things I learned from a human potential training I participated in last year(kind of a clone of the Lifespring) was to be anxious about the result – pushing super hard to get something done and feeling real bad if commitment was not met. It’s a cool way to remind yourself that you have some willpower to spend, but it’s dead inefficient compared to other stuff.

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Let’s start from the basics. To achieve something I need two things: 1) to make a decision 2) execute it for a while. Obviously, in some cases I had problems with the second one. Analyzing why was never simpler: I was dragged away by the stuff I’m used to!

For example, years ago I let myself be dragged by my work from my university friends. Later I followed a girl drag, thus abandoning the work. [ Hope you have better life balance?:) ]

drag

Anyway. The issue is resolved by the same thing it’s caused by – the trick is to get dragged. By all the winds: family, career, health, whatever, so you’ll have all the things you want at once. Consciously this time.

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The process:

  1. Get yourself a spare Sunday
  2. List the roles you’d like to play/areas of life(e.g. colleague, son, friend, father, neighbor, athlete, …)
  3. For each of these get a simple todo item ideally:
    • Exposing you to a longterm changes
    • Involving other people
    • You never had done before
    • Involving no decision taking: call, chat, …
  4. Execute!
  5. Next Sunday review the results and repeat

Takeaways

  1. Give priority to the list, urgent routine stuff will fit around that nicely anyway ;)
  2. Don’t expect something HUGE to be done – the trick is not to nail something, but to get yourself dragged by a flow where something cool will be done for you naturally sometimes with your own hands - that's still a valid option:) ]
  3. If you wish to be energy efficient – accept all the results and try to get caught by a different dragging force next time, bitching about stuff is useless : )
  4. It’s always too early to give up!

Frequently asked question: how do I get to a billion dollars figure on my bank account?
Frequently returned answer: which role do you thing will bring you that?

[ As I've started living through this, I never thought of the money goal again: I strive to be a kind son, good colleague, motivating neighbor, excited traveler, ... Where is the money? ]

Kyivmarathon 10km impressions

Motivation

As usual, a cute friend of mine invited me to 21km run and disappeared leaving me to deal with the challenges myself : )

I screwed my part in turn by only attempting to register when 10 km ones were left open. Given my life long record of running 2km max(which is enough to both sedate me for a day and prevent from further attempts for a year), I accepted the challenge.

Preparations

I gave it a try Bartney Stinson style: “Step 1: start running, there is no step 2″.

Luckily, I was told a few worthwhile things in advance:

  • Keep yourself hydrated
  • Have something easily digestable
  • Keep running no matter what

Experiences

-0.2km I need some place to have a pee! Oh, god, need to run.

0km It took like 2 mins for all the crowd around the starting point to actually pass through. Luckily, I had an electronic chip to checkpoint my start and end time(still waiting for the results to be processed and e-mailed).

2.5km My first psychological barrier broken. There was a music spot there giving me additional boost. I was lucky enough to follow a pair of some nice buttocks, giving me something else to concentrate on instead of my ever failing breath rythm.

Time to turn my music on to dope myself a little bit!

4km It was funky to realize that I can keep going. Unfortunately this piece of distance was going along side some traffic, thus making the air not that sweet as previously. Additionally I was seriously considering to pee from the bridge.

I felt both overheated and cold at the time – goose pimples all over my body made me feel like a piece of burning something.

5km Whoa! Get a cup, spit out all the water and throw the thing the funkiest way possible! I should turn here, shouldn’t I?

5.2km Going back now!

6km It seems I’m running slower than some people are walking. Rule 3 – don’t stop!

7.5km Everybody’s kind of slow, but still passing by me. All of the greatest moments here were related to people cheering each other – there’s not so much left!

8km I’m seriously feeling like pushing against a wall. Muscles are burning. Am I feeling that for real, or just recalling some write-ups by other guys?

9.8km Let’s sprint a bit! Oh, no, I’m tired again.

10km Run-run-run dude!

10.1km It seems, previous sprint was kind of stupid. My legs are kind of failing, but I know where the girl with the sweets is!

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Conclusions

  1. Running is a great way to cure sickness
  2. I’m capable of more then I’m used to think
  3. To achieve more keep the bar high!

Hi from the past

One of the reasons I love personal organizers so much is that I forget about their content eventually, thus preparing a time capsule for myself. Sometimes the whole organizer is buried at others, just a single item.

As personal growth is all about improving compared to a past myself, it’s always fun to realize I’ve lost a battle(btw, I’m reading the book just now).
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Or, on contrary spot a thing seemingly impossible at a time but being kind of default now.
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Make mistakes –> leave trails –> hunt ‘em down –> … –> profit! :)